Breaking Free of the Comparison trap

Three prayers to stop comparing yourself to others

Depending on what’s going on in my heart when I catch myself thinking or speaking in terms of comparison, I’ve discovered that I may need one or more of three different kinds of help from God.

1. If I realize that I’m being tempted to forget my security as God’s beloved child, I say “Father, ground me in your love.”

2. If I feel that I’ve given in to comparison and then to sin, I pray, “Forgive me, Lord, and show me the way.”

3. If I’ve indulged in comparison to the point of envying another person, I’ve learned to thank God for that person’s gifts and to pray for a blessing for that person. For instance, if I find myself wishing that I had another person’s appearance, possessions, or position, I immediately pray, “Lord, please continue to bless (name) and help them use your gifts well.”

These simple words, uttered in a single breath, halt the act of comparison habit cycle in its tracks. When I replace words of comparison with words that both offer a plea to God and at the same time remind me that I am not alone in my struggle, I am reminded that there is hope for real change.

God is with us and for us, always willing to help us when we ask. With His help, we can break the toxic habit of constant comparison and learn to live in the freedom of His unfailing love.